Some relationships we are KO for weeks, months or even years. Some relationships last a lifetime, others not. Some relationships are strong and intense, more passionate, the other calm. Some relationships are just smoke and mirrors that are destroying us slowly. When someone loves
must also be loved in return. But sometimes the return does not happen or more. Some people can not live without being loved but not love.
Initially everything is beautiful and magnificent. This is called the phase of seduction. It makes us believe he is the prince as expected, he will always meet our expectations, it will always be there for us and we love life. Beautiful illusions!
And yet, we believe as hard as iron, we attach to this image of perfect man. We believe and we want to believe it. But gradually the mask falls and there is the fall.
Too blue flower, it is challenging to say the problem is obvious. We thought we rethink our way of being, you make concessions and accept certain lifestyles that we do not match. All this in order to continue to be loved. And yet love still does not come. While we continue to change. We go slowly into a mold that does not match, we try to be perfect until the day you realize that there is a real problem, a problem major. But we still believe and we can always fix things. We tell ourselves that this is a bad time, the couple returns to the routine. So we try to give new impetus to our relationship. We buy sexy outfits, it innovates on intimate terms, but nothing helped. The spouse is not even exhilarated by our outfits, so there you take a slap sacred and we realize that no, he will never love us and it does no good to go on, because we will be unhappy the rest of life. Yet he swears he loves us we are still the love of his life, but it no longer believes, because the facts are there: love is shown by conduct not in love with gifts and words.
So we put everything in motion to stop this stupid ride us rotten life and we slowly sank into depression.
And here we see a few days after we were right since our former has already replaced by another. It's hard ... very hard to say that many years have not counted, but on the other hand it reinforces our decision that we made.
That said, we need then we rebuild. Because after such an ordeal it seems not to know what love is. When someone has given everything to be loved while thinking it was just smoke and mirrors, how to know what love is and how to love? When someone gives himself totally thinking it is, it corresponds to what is expected of a partner, and when one realizes that all this was only an illusion, we feels lost, destroyed. It seems that the love we gave was nothing, it did not help. We saw this as a failure and it seems we do not know love and we do not know what love is, true, great.
For years we believed in love illusory. So, when you realize that in reality we have never known love, it seems we will not know love. When we loved so inconsiderate when it was lost in love each other, we gave everything from the bottom of his guts, how can we imagine that we will love more intense for true love. It feels like we will not know it right, we will always be half as if one day we meet Finally, the real, true love. Give all an illusion, how to give more for real?
Certainly romantic behavior are different from one person to another. But certain emotional gestures are part of us. So when we lavish to be that we love and who loves us with a love sincere and true, we always feel that our actions ring false because they rang so true for a cause in vain.
Reconstruction and learning to love takes time, but also patience. Do not despair, because when you know love, we know for life, you just have to recover from setbacks past and learn to love again. Especially since it does not confuse the fact of loving someone for what he is and not for the love he gives us, even if in love there is a small part of selfishness.
